Things I love (and hate) about being a working mum

I’ve now been back at work after maternity leave for 5 months. I was lucky enough to take 12 months of maternity leave (actually 13 if you include annual leave), so I was a bit apprehensive about going back. I negotiated going part-time and now work 4 days a week, which I’ve found is a pretty good balance for me.

There have been some challenges along the way, but here are the things I love (and a couple of things I hate) about being a working mum.

Things I love about being a working mum

  1. Me time. One of the best things about going back to work has been having a bit of me time. I get to eat my lunch in peace. I can drink hot tea. I can go to the loo without a companion. I even get time to listen to podcasts on my way to work. I read the news so I know what’s going on in the world! It’s brilliant.
  2. Using my brain. As much as I love spending time with Jacob, I did feel like I needed something else to do while on maternity leave. That’s why I started this blog. I needed an outlet and wanted to learn something new. Now I’m back at work I can feel my brain cells starting to wake up a bit!
  3. Not being covered in snot. Self-explanatory really.
  4. Appreciating it when I’m at home. Being at home all the time is hard. Much harder than being at work. Toddlers can be pretty difficult. I was reminded of this over Christmas when I spent 12 days in a row with Jacob. It can all get a bit relentless, so it’s nice to have a bit of a break from it at work. I then really enjoy my day off with him. I salute you stay at home mums. I don’t think I could do it.
  5. Adult conversation. “Bubbles, bubbles, BUBBLES!”. That’s the extent of the conversation I get at home at the moment. It’s nice to chat to other adults at work.  
  6. Money. Ok, so the part-time salary isn’t the best. Especially when you add in the cost of childcare. Although we are lucky that we only pay for 2 days a week. But my theory is that by going back to work, I should (hopefully) manage to earn more later on than I would if I’d stayed at home and gone back to work in a few years. I also feel more secure knowing that we have two incomes, just in case one of us got made redundant or ill.
  7. Eating a whole meal to myself. At home I always have a toddler trying to eat half of it.

Things I hate about being a working mum

  1. FOMO. I get major fear of missing out. I worry that I’m missing important moments in Jacob’s development. Deep down I do know that he loves nursery and spending time with his grandparents. I think nursery has been really good for him.
  2. Playing catch up. I’m always behind on something, whether that’s the never-ending washing pile, buying food or life admin. My New Years resolution was to get more organised. It hasn’t happened yet!
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22 Comments

  1. January 16, 2018 / 9:54 pm

    Dare I say it, but you’ve almost got the balance there! I worked when my eldest was little and stopped when number 2 came along. I do work again now, but I really missed work in those in between years. Good for you for making it work #dreamteam

  2. January 18, 2018 / 7:53 am

    Lovely positive post and I’m sure it will be a helpful and uplifting read for many mums going back to work soon after mat leave #coolmumclub

  3. January 18, 2018 / 9:14 am

    I totally agree! I have to admit to enjoying the relative peace at work and having a whole hour to eat lunch, with both hands!!! I do get FOMO attacks, but I know she’s having a great time at nursery/nanna’s and ultimately, this is the best solution for our family #CoolMumClub

  4. January 18, 2018 / 8:11 pm

    Ah it sounds as though you are loving it – I remember feeling like I’d struck gold when I returned to part time work after my first. It’s certainly not all bad being out of Mum mode for a bit!
    Thanks for linking up to #coolmumclub

  5. thesingleswan
    January 20, 2018 / 10:50 pm

    Ah yes, spot on. FOMO on Cygnet’s developments is my biggest thing. I like having the ‘me time’ and a sense of achievement at work though. The money is critical too. Pen x #KCACOLS

  6. January 21, 2018 / 8:12 am

    It’s good to see that your positives on this post way outweigh the negatives. I’ve been back in work full time for nine months now and I love it. I do really miss seeing some of Dex’s developments but I always have a full day off during the week and I make the most of every minute! I hope you continue to enjoy it too

    #KCACOLS

  7. January 21, 2018 / 10:44 am

    That’s a lovely post about being a working Mum because it’s mostly positive. I’m a teacher so the workload out of work is a lot and, although I’m currently on mat leave till
    Nov, I’m wondering what the future will hold for me after it. I don’t think I can do both… #KCACOLS

    • Kelly
      January 21, 2018 / 2:36 pm

      Is there any way you could work part time? It must be tough. I’m lucky because mostly I don’t have to work outside of work. Thanks for reading!

  8. January 21, 2018 / 4:44 pm

    I love being a working mum. As crazy as it sounds when I’m at work, there is less for me to think about and I am generally more relaxed than being at home and doing all the things that come with being a single mum. Sounds like you are really seeing the positives too! #kcacols

  9. January 21, 2018 / 10:11 pm

    I’m a working mum too and I had three weeks off as I’m the second parent and even then it was tough to leave him. I can’t imagine how hard it must be after thirteen months. #kcacols

  10. January 22, 2018 / 9:19 pm

    I love working part time too and I feel like it gives me the best of both worlds. Although there is that danger that we try to take on the workload of both roles on a full-time basis, just squished into part time hours (which I know I’m guilty of!). I love the balance that you’ve found. Thanks for linking to #DreamTeam x

  11. January 23, 2018 / 10:08 am

    I’m a work-and-stay-at-home mum so sit somewhere in the middle of this – it’s all such a juggle! #coolmumclub

  12. January 23, 2018 / 12:38 pm

    I’ve just gone back to work and my little one is 11 months old, not full time yet but I needed to read this but I have immense FOMO too! My heart feels like it jumps every time I leave home #DreamTeam

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  13. January 24, 2018 / 2:24 pm

    This is a lovely post 🙂 It’s great that you have a great balance between work and home. Thanks so much for linking up at #KCACOLS. Hope you come back again next time 🙂

  14. January 24, 2018 / 2:43 pm

    Sounds like you’ve found the set up that works just right for you and your family! I think feeling like you’re playing catch-up is just part of being a parent though, whether you go out to work or stay at home there is always so much to juggle and keep track of! x #KCACOLS

  15. January 25, 2018 / 11:22 am

    Yep agree with all of these, I have major FOMO when it comes to my two. #KCACOLS

  16. January 26, 2018 / 12:24 am

    Oh how I feel ya! Working part time would be wonderful. I’m a full timer and have major FOMO all the time. Great post. xoxo #dreamteam xoxo

  17. January 28, 2018 / 2:02 pm

    I would hate to be working when my kids are little and missing out on the big milestones. so I worked from home. At the moment I work from home, but my kids are all in school now. The one thing I am glad of now, is being able to go to the toilet by myself and drinking a cup of tea in peace. #KCACOLS

  18. January 31, 2018 / 10:16 pm

    Ah! I work from home, but only have one day where I have no kids all day! I feel like a proper working mum that day haha. #KCACOLS

  19. February 1, 2018 / 4:35 pm

    Totally agree with you on these! i work part time and feel the same, although my kids aren’t babies so on my days off I’m still without kids, they’re all at school hehe! I do like my colleagues and getting dressed up for work but equally I think I could work from home in my pj’s! Sometimes the grass is always greener though isn;t it? x #kcacols

  20. February 1, 2018 / 6:30 pm

    I’ve been back at work for 6 months after baby number three so can relate to all of these! #KCACOLS

  21. February 2, 2018 / 7:46 am

    Like you I liked the fact that I was using my brain and my me time. Bless! I could go to the loo on my own!!! But playing catch up all time and always feeling guilty to work at home while I should have been with my little one… It is not easy to go back to work but I can understand why some mums want to preserve their job #KCACOLS

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