I read an article the other day about the couple who were being threatened with eviction because of complaints about their baby crying with horror. If you haven’t read it, a couple with two children who live in the top floor flat of a converted house in London have been threatened with eviction by their management company because of complaints about the baby crying at 5.30am (and then again at 6.45am), apparently on a daily basis.
If we were less fortunate, that couple could easily be us. Jacob is the same age as their baby. And he wakes up at 5.30am without fail. Usually crying. It must drive our next door neighbours crazy. But, there’s nothing they can do, because we are lucky enough to own our home and don’t have to rent, so they have no one to complain to. Plus they are nice people who’ve had children of their own, which helps a lot!
It’s stressful enough knowing your baby is crying very early in the morning when you are worried about waking your neighbours, let alone if you fear getting evicted because of it. The poor parents must be beside themselves.
However hard we try, sometimes it takes a while to calm Jacob down early in the morning. One of us has to go and get his milk and he usually doesn’t stop crying until he gets it. That only takes a few minutes, but it’s long enough to wake up the neighbours. If he’s teething, it’s a whole other ball game. Sometimes he’ll grizzle for ages, despite having had his milk.
I do feel some sympathy for their neighbours though. I know that before I had Jacob, if I was woken every morning that early, I’d be pretty fed up. I doubt I would complain though. I’d probably try earplugs first. And failing that, complaining to the landlord about the lack of sound proofing in the block of flats. Properly converted flats should be better at containing sound.
Reading below the line
I made the mistake of reading the comments on some of the articles when researching for this blog post. Stories like this really seem to bring out the worst in people. “Why was the baby crying though?”, “They shouldn’t leave the baby to cry” and my personal favourite “people with young babies shouldn’t live in blocks of flats. It’s just so selfish”. I mean, seriously? The parent’s would probably like nothing more than to live in a house, but in London that is seriously difficult. Maybe the people making those comments don’t have children, or have very good children who never cry. I’d love to know how to stop a 15-month-old crying in the morning though. If anyone can tell me, please let me know!
Of course, not everyone was being nasty. There was a lot of sympathy too. Anyway, it must be horrible for the family to read these judgements on them and their parenting. I’m sure they aren’t reading this, but if they are, I have one thing to say. My 15-month-old cries too. I’m sure you are doing the best you can!